Relationships are all about engaging in new experiences, connecting with each other, learning from our mistakes, and flourishing within. When you spend a whole lot of time with someone you love, not only do you grow closer to them but you become closer to yourself. The more time we spend with someone, the more we begin to identify with them.
The most important thing I’ve learned from my 2-year relationship is
The importance of self.
It’s important to never lose touch of who you are in any given relationship. Losing one’s sense of self or one’s individual identity in favor of your partner’s identity is not exactly a healthy relationship. Instead, both individuals should have a strong self-identity in which both partners can grow from the new experiences that each person brings.
We often get too comfortable in our relationship and forget to do things outside of it. Which completely undermines the reason why we dive into them in the first place. To broaden our experiences and extend our identity.
Why many long-term relationships end
One major reason why relationships fall apart has to do with stagnation. Which occurs when the relationship gets bogged down by routine and partners no longer have a desire to experience new things.
Research has shown that infidelity is often associated with insufficient self-expansion with one’s primary partner, so they seek that fulfillment and excitement in other people.
Remedy for stagnation
One way to resolve this is by helping each other find new and exciting ways to bring change into the relationship. Once in a while, you should do something different, get out of your comfort zone and remind each other why you fell in love.