When I stopped looking for love, it came to me. When I stopped looking for an escape from my pain, it left me. And when I stopped chasing happiness, it found me.
The turning point in my life was the moment I stopped looking for ways to be happy.
Chasing happiness is like forcing someone to love you. It doesn’t work. Life doesn’t bend to your satisfaction.
Instead of focusing on things that were out of my control, I started focusing on what I can change right now. My relationship, diet, environment, school, career, etc.
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
The moment you stop worrying about finding happiness, it will come to you naturally. You will no longer see happiness as a destination, but a reward.
Focus on pursuing your goals, rather than chasing a feeling. Focus on helping others without expecting anything in return. Focus on what you can change now without worrying about what you cannot control.
You hate your job? Find the one you love. You’re failing classes? Change your study habits. Unhappy with your weight? Change your diet and move. Bored with your routine? Change your environment by stepping the fuck out of it.
Self-improvement is learning how to improve your life, by changing certain habits. Learning how to be more productive, compassionate and useful. Inspiring action, and impacting the lives of others.
Self-improvement doesn’t stem from being happy, it comes from our willingness to try–through changing our lives for the better. One of the best ways you can evolve is by stepping out of the comfort zone and experiencing new things.
Create an experience that will help you grow through embracing not only the good times but also the worst.