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I haven’t written or published anything in weeks. 

It’s frustrating because all I want to do is pour my heart into this keyboard, without overthinking every passing second. I miss the days when the words would flow so naturally, without any interruption. 

I just spent a couple of hours writing a story. And right before I clicked ‘publish,’ I went back to revise it 25 times. Literally. 

And I still didn’t publish after all that. If anything I’m 100% certain my changes made the story worst. And now I’m back to square one. 

I’m starting to understand why I’ve been struggling to write lately. I care too much about creating the perfect blog and writing content that people will like. But there is no such thing as a perfect blog. 

This obsession with trying to create something in hopes others will like it has stolen the joy from a process I once loved. 

Nobody wants to admit it but the truth is we all want to be liked by others. 

But why should outside approval matter? it doesn’t but it does. The uncertainty creates this battle between doing what you love and doing what others will love. 

Almost everybody experiences this dilemma, but very few people let it get to their head. They’re able to overcome that shame or fear, by focusing on why they do what they do in the first place. Because it brings them happiness. It gives them meaning. Or because it’s a form of self-expression. All of which does not require somebody else’s input. 

You need to ask yourself, why are you doing what you’re doing? Is it to be liked? or because it’s what you like? 

What’s the point in doing anything if you can’t be true to yourself in the process? 

When you do something for yourself, you will always find a way to eliminate the doubt and fear. It might not be easy at first but you will manage through it. 

Start by getting out of your own head. The mind constantly works against us by drawing up ‘what-if’ situations and worse case scenarios. 

What if they don’t like it? What if I offend someone? What if the quality is poor? What if someone said it better? 

All of those things are possible, but so what? None of them are reasons enough to stop doing what you love? Who cares if others won’t like it because chances are not everyone will.

Your goal isn’t to impress strangers on the internet, its to create something meaningful, for you. 

If it evokes emotion in others, then you’ve done something right. 

Focus on being authentic — not a perfectionist. 

Stop overthinking every detail, and just do what makes sense to you. You can’t stop people from thinking a certain way. So who the fuck cares.  

“Unlearn your constant need to be liked.” — Anthony Moore 

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