“As time goes on, you’ll understand. What lasts, lasts; what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things. And what time can’t solve, you have to solve yourself.”

— Haruki Murakami (via purplebuddhaquotes)

Sometimes you meet someone and immediately know they’re going to be the one to change your life. You create many beautiful memories together. You grow, learn, explore, make mistakes, and love unconditionally. No matter what, they will always be your person.

Eventually, you move in together and things began to change. Now you’ve become so used to having someone in your life 24/7. You literally can’t remember what being alone is like. And you can’t help but feel like your life isn’t yours anymore. 

Everything is moving far too quickly, and things are changing right before your eyes. You feel like you’re running behind.

There comes a time when you and the one you love, will be standing on opposite sides of the road. Unable to meet halfway anymore. Not because you don’t want to, but because you’ve grown apart. You both are moving in different directions now. And the best thing for you is to walk away.

When do you walk away?

Things happen, feelings change, and sometimes we have thoughts about ending a relationship, but how often do we act on it?

There is never going to be a perfect time to walk away. It isn’t something that happens in the spur of the moment, and it takes a lot of courage and consideration.

Waiting around because you fear the outcome is not a reason to stay. If you know deep in your heart that this is what you need, then it’s better to do so sooner than later.

Many times people choose to stay in an unsatisfied relationship because they’re afraid of being alone. But staying together out of convenience or comfort does more harm than good.

Listen to your gut

Sometimes you don’t know what to do because your heart and mind want two different things. The thought of leaving seems unbearable, but the idea of staying saddens you. Still, you have to make a choice sooner than later.

Not all things that are meant to be are meant to last.

You don’t know If you’ll be happy without them in your life, but you have to try at least. You owe that to yourself. Because if you don’t, you’ll forever wonder and eventually hate yourself for not choosing you.

It’s okay to want to do you

You have your entire life ahead of you, plenty of opportunities, and people to meet.

Remember, there was a plan before someone stumbled into your life. Nothing and nobody should ever stop you from achieving your goals.

Give yourself a chance to explore, learn and honestly see the world with your own eyes–without someone standing in your shadow all the time. It’s not healthy for you or them.

I genuinely feel some relationships, even the best, must come to an end at some point. Not everything is meant to last.

Sometimes leaving the person you love can seem incomprehensible, but you can’t let fear stop you from seeing what’s out there. And if you’re meant to stay together, you’ll find your way back to each other.

Trust me, I know being in love can feel like the only thing that matters, but it’s not. We are meant to fall in and out of love, experience new things with different people, and eventually grow from those experiences.

The only love that matters is the love within. Everything else is irrelevant. When we look within ourselves, we end up finding unconditional love and fulfillment from a place that is guaranteed.

Posted by:Stay Growing

Personal Lifestyle blogger passionate about growth and self-improvement.

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