So you’ve been in a relationship for quite some time, but things aren’t as exciting as they once were. It happens to the best of us in long-term relationships. After a while, the spark begins to fade, and although there is love in the air, things aren’t the same.
Relationship burnout (or stagnation) is pretty typical for couples who have been together over time. You are probably wondering if this is just a phase. The answer is yes and no.
Stagnation occurs when the relationship falls into a routine. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to overcome this! Such as putting more time and effort into your relationship, stepping outside of your normal routine, going on a trip, taking up dance classes, or picking up on a new hobby with your partner. The list goes on.
But if you feel like your relationship has reached a turning point, and neither of you has any motivation to improve,
I’ve been together with my boyfriend for three years now. And like most couples, we go through highs and lows, good and bad days. There are days where I even question my relationship. But despite all our conflicts, we manage to overcome the unexpected challenges and grow together.
Here are a few steps I take whenever we experience relationship burnout.
Spend time apart
As strange as this sounds, solitude always works. When you’re with someone every day, things are bound to get predictable and a bit boring. Sometimes spending time apart from the person you love, will remind you how much you appreciate having them in your life.
Don’t shy away from dating
You probably went on dates all the time before settling down. Dating is fun whether your single, married, or in a relationship, its something to look forward to.
Communicate your feelings
Maybe there is a deeper problem to why the relationship has lost its spark. Sit down with your partner, and gently confide in them and listen to what they have to say. Communicate about what the other person needs.
Get out of your comfort zone
When the relationship gets too comfortable, the answer is to get the hell out of your comfort space. Do something different and share new experiences. The best relationships are those that grow and learn together.
Not everyone has money to travel whenever crave a vacation. But there are other ways to venture off, that doesn’t require you to spending thousands of dollars on a trip. Find a small beach town nearby, or take a short road trip to the closest state. Go somewhere neither of you have been before.